in response to mmh777... While searching for help for my son, I came across this post. I am in a very similar situation. When my son was 18, he moved out a week after graduating high school. He did not want to follow house rules (e.g. party all night, sleep all day). I knew he would struggle, but he wouldn't listen. The arguements escalated. After 8 months, he was really down on his luck, dirty, thin. We allowed him to move back home and help him get back on his feet. Again, after only one month, he resorted back to the same old crap. Twisting it, as if it was all my fault that he is in the mess he is in. He is now 19, calling me saying he fu@#$% up his life, etc. I don't want him back home because of his mouth and attitude. He can't seem to hold a job, etc. He isn't on cocaine, but he dabbles in pot and smokes. He is really impulsive, ADHD diagnosed. I feel so guilty not asking him to come back home. I don't want him on the street. I just feel sick, but I have a younger child at home and I don't want him negatively influenced. How do I help without enabling him in continuing the bad behavior and poor work ethic? I have bought him groceries, but now he says he will be homeless in a few days because the guy he is staying with is getting evicted and moving away. This kid can't even get into the military. He can't pass the entrance exam. Any suggestions?
